Denver’s dating scene is energetic, social, and constantly in motion. Between outdoor adventures, busy careers, and a steady stream of new faces, it’s easy to meet people and keep things moving. But many people quietly notice something else happening underneath all that activity. Despite plenty of dates, the same relationship frustrations keep showing up. This […]
Author: Cara Allan
Cara Allan, LMFT, CST is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist based in Denver. As the founder of Couples Counseling of Denver, she helps high-achieving couples heal from disconnection and build lasting intimacy. Drawing from over 20 years of experience—and her own personal journey through relational healing—Cara offers a warm, grounded, and practical approach to relationship therapy.
How to Talk to Your Partner About Starting Couples Therapy (Without Triggering Defensiveness)
Starting couples therapy can feel like stepping into emotional quicksand. You might know, deep down, that support could help your relationship, but the moment you imagine the conversation, fear takes over. Fear of hurting your partner. Fear of being misunderstood. Fear that they’ll hear “therapy” as “you’re the problem” or “our relationship is failing.” If […]
How Elevation Depression Impacts Intimacy in Relationships
Living in a beautiful mountain town can seem idyllic — fresh air, breathtaking views, and a lifestyle that feels closer to nature. But if you or your partner have recently moved to a higher elevation and are feeling “off,” you’re not imagining things; it could very well be “elevation depression.” High altitude can affect your […]
Navigating Relationship Stressors During Colorado’s Long Winters
Colorado winters can be breathtaking. Snow-covered mountains, crisp air, and cozy evenings inside. But alongside the beauty, winter often brings a quieter challenge that many couples do not expect: relationship stressors that feel heavier, sharper, or harder to navigate during the colder months. If you and your partner notice more relationship tension, emotional distance, or […]
What to Do When You Feel Stuck in a Relationship Because of Your Lease
Feeling Trapped by Both Your Lease and Your Relationship? It’s hard enough when a relationship isn’t working. But when you’re tied to a lease, that stuck feeling can be overwhelming. You may be sharing a home with someone you no longer feel connected to, counting down the days until the lease ends and wondering what […]
What to Do When You Can’t Afford Relationship Therapy but Need It
“I Need Relationship Therapy, but I Can’t Afford It!” If you’ve ever thought this, you’re not alone. The cost of counseling can be a real barrier, and many people end up searching for low cost therapy options in Denver or wherever they live. Access to healthcare — including mental health care — should be a […]
Navigating Political Division in Your Relationship
Politics Don’t Always Stay Out of Our Relationships “My partner, family member, or friend voted differently than me. We fundamentally disagree about this — how do we get along?” In today’s America, political division is everywhere. You might feel elated about recent election results, or you might feel devastated. You may strongly support the direction […]
Improve Your Relationship With Couple Agreements
Relationship Problems Aren’t Always What You Think You might be wondering why you and your partner are fighting so much when you know there’s love between you. You like a lot of the same things. You feel “compatible.” And yet… you’re arguing about who does the dishes, where to spend the holidays, and who’s responsible […]
What to Do After You Discover Your Partner Is Having an Affair
The Shock of Discovering an Affair You just found out your partner is having an affair. The shock hits first, and then comes the wave of emotions: heartbreak, confusion, anger, dread. You may feel like your world has been turned upside down, unsure of what to do next or where to turn for help. As […]
Your Partner Just Discovered You Are Having an Affair. What Do You Do?
Facing the Fallout of an Affair Your partner has just discovered you’re having an affair. Now what? You might be tempted to deny what they know is true. Maybe you want to avoid their heartbreak by saying nothing, or try to justify your actions because you’ve been unhappy in the relationship. Perhaps you even blame […]
