“Should I stay, or should I leave?” If you or your partner are asking this question, discernment counseling is a wise choice. It is designed to work for a “mixed agenda” couple– when one partner is “leaning out” and one partner is “leaning in”. It is very frustrating and painful to be in a relationship where there is ambivalence on the part of one or more partners. If one, or both of you, are flip-flopping back and forth, or changing your mind, it can also be very confusing.

The goals of discernment counseling are to find clarity and confidence in a direction for the relationship, based on a deeper understanding of what has happened to the relationship and each person’s contributions to the problems. We will also get clear about what it would take if you choose to stay in the relationship and make it better.

As a trained and experienced discernment counselor, my goal is to listen to you both and help you talk openly about what you want so you can make a decision about your future – whether you look at the options of continuing as is, separating or divorcing, or working on the relationship whole-heartedly for 6 months.

If you decide to separate, I’ll help you with divorce counseling for couples to resolve your relationship in a compassionate and respectful way so that you can come to terms with the end of the relationship and move on more easily. If you decide to make a solid commitment to each other, we can start relationship counseling to work on improving the areas where you have trouble.

If you are looking for discernment counseling in Denver contact me for a complimentary 15-minute phone consultation on. You can tell me your problems and I’ll let you know how I can help.

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