“Should I stay, or should I leave?” If you or your partner are asking this question, discernment counseling is a wise choice. It is designed to work for a “mixed agenda”. A couple where one partner is “leaning out” and one partner is “leaning in”. It is very frustrating to be in a relationship where there is ambivalence from one or both partners. Especially if one, or both of you, are flip-flopping back and forth, or changing your mind. Undeniably it can also be very confusing.

The goals of discernment counseling are to find clarity and confidence about the direction for the relationship. Together we will gather a deeper understanding of what has happened to the relationship. We will explore each person’s contributions to the problems. We will also get clear about what it would take if you choose to stay in the relationship and make it better for both partners.

I Can Help

As a trained and experienced discernment counselor, my goal is to listen to you both. Then I will help you talk openly about what you want. Subsequently, you will be able to make a decision about your future. Whether it is making no changes at this time (“status quo”), separating or divorcing, or working on the relationship whole-heartedly for 6 months. I can help you be clearer and more confident in your decisions.

If you decide to separate, I can help with divorce counseling to process the end of your relationship in a compassionate and respectful way. In this phase you both can process the end of the marriage, set intentions for how to be the best parents if you have children in common, and gain closure to the end of the relationship. The goal will be to help you come to terms with the end of the relationship and move on to the next chapter of your life without resentments or unfinished business.

Conversely, if you decide to make a solid commitment to each other, we can start relationship counseling to work on improving the areas where you have trouble and building a better relationship.

If you are looking for discernment counseling in Denver contact me for a complimentary 15-minute phone consultation on. You can tell me what the relationship problems are and I’ll let you know how I can help.

’ll let you know how I can help.