What is Sex Therapy?

Sex therapy, is a specific type of therapy. Couples sex counseling can help couples and/or individuals resolve sexual difficulties, such as differences in desire or anxiety related to sex. Additionally, sex therapy is also useful for individuals or couples who are having problems related to different levels of sexual desire, arousal, sexual preferences, etc. Unquestionably a fulfilling sex life is important to our overall health and relationships. Physical and emotional intimacy are essential parts of your well-being. Sexual issues that are not resolved can slowly eat away at your relationship, creating misunderstandings and hurt that can worsen over time.

Your AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, Cara Allan

Whether you’re an looking for individual therapy for relationships, couples or sex therapy, I’m one of the few trained and licensed sex therapists in Denver. Sex may not be easy for you to talk about with your partner. You may not even know exactly what the problems are!

Sex Therapy Can Help You Regain Your Intimacy & Deepen Your Connection

In reality it is normal for clients to feel anxious when seeking couples sex counseling. Many people have difficulty in talking about sex at all. As a sex therapist I am open-minded and non-judgmental. I am trained to help you with any concern you may have about your sexuality or sexual relationships. I can assure you that I am qualified to be able to help you discuss your sex life and overcome your difficulties. Regardless of how complicated your sexual difficulties may be, I have the skills to assist you in resolving them.

Whether your sex life is conservative, adventurous or somewhere in between, my goal for couples sex counseling is to help you be more sexually satisfied in a way that feels authentic to you and your partner(s).

Couples Sex Counseling

Meet Cara Allan, Your Couples Sex Therapist

Cara Allan, MA, LMFT, ATR-BC
Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist – Colorado License #932
Registered & Board Certified Art Therapist – ATCB# 12-220

Cara Allan is a trained sex therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist who helps couples overcome sexual challenges with sensitivity, respect, and clinical expertise. She understands that sexual concerns are deeply personal—and often emotionally charged—and provides a safe, open space for couples to reconnect and rediscover intimacy.

With advanced training from the California Institute for Integral Studies and extensive experience addressing a wide spectrum of sexual concerns, Cara is well-equipped to support couples navigating desire discrepancies, sexual dysfunction, communication issues, or intimacy blocks. Her work is inclusive, affirming, and grounded in research-backed approaches.

Cara’s own experiences in healing and building a fulfilling relationship inform her compassionate style. She believes sexual intimacy is a vital part of a healthy relationship and offers couples the tools to address both emotional and physical aspects of connection. Whether your concerns are rooted in longstanding issues or recent changes, she helps you explore them without shame or judgment.

In sex therapy sessions, Cara uses clear language, proven techniques, and a collaborative approach to help you move past discomfort and toward greater understanding and closeness. No topic is off limits—and you are never alone in the process.

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Sex Therapy Denver

What Can Sex Therapy Help With?

  • erectile dysfunction
  • low libido, high libido
  • lack of interest
  • premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation
  • low confidence, sexual shame
  • lack of response to sexual stimulus
  • inability to reach orgasm
  • sexual behavior that feels out of control
  • distressing sexual thoughts
  • difficulty navigating sexual desires

If you are looking for couples sex counseling in Denver, or relationship and marriage counseling contact me for a complimentary 15-minute phone consultation. You will be able to tell me your problems and I’ll let you know how I can help.

You don’t have to continue struggling.

Contact me for a complimentary 15-minute phone consultation. You can share your concerns and I’ll let you know how I can help.

What Questions Do You Have?

Couples sex therapy is a specialized form of counseling that helps partners address challenges related to sexual intimacy, communication, desire, and emotional connection. It combines traditional relationship therapy with clinical expertise in sexual health to help couples resolve concerns such as mismatched libido, performance anxiety, arousal issues, or difficulty discussing sex openly. Working with a trained sex therapist can help you rebuild intimacy in a supportive and non-judgmental space.

Sex therapy can help with a wide range of concerns, including:

  • Low libido or mismatched desire
  • Erectile dysfunction or arousal difficulties
  • Premature or delayed ejaculation
  • Difficulty reaching orgasm
  • Sexual shame, anxiety, or low confidence
  • Distressing sexual thoughts
  • Differences in sexual preferences
  • Intimacy blocks or emotional disconnection
  • Sexual behavior that feels out of control

Whether your concerns are new or long-standing, therapy creates a safe place to understand what’s happening and work toward a more fulfilling sex life.

Cara Allan, MA, LMFT, ATR-BC, is an AASECT certified sex therapist and licensed marriage and family therapist in Denver. With advanced training from the California Institute of Integral Studies and deep experience helping couples navigate complex sexual concerns, she brings clinical expertise, compassion, and a non-judgmental approach to every session. Cara provides a safe, open space where no topic is off limits and where couples can explore intimacy concerns without shame.

Yes. Many people feel anxious or embarrassed when talking about sex, even with their partner. It’s completely normal to feel unsure about where to start. A skilled sex therapist understands this and will guide you with sensitivity, clear language, and open-minded support. You don’t need to have the “right words”—just a willingness to explore your concerns.

Not always. While couples sex therapy is designed for partners working together, individuals can also seek sex therapy for personal sexual concerns, confidence issues, or patterns that affect future relationships. I work with both individuals and couples, depending on your goals and comfort level.

Absolutely. Sex therapy is inclusive and affirming of all identities, sexual orientations, gender expressions, and relationship structures. Whether your sex life is conservative, adventurous, monogamous, or non-traditional, therapy is customized to fit what feels authentic and comfortable for you and your partner(s).

This is one of the most common questions I get, and I’m happy to clarify! Insurance does not consider couples therapy medically necessary.

In order for insurance to cover your therapy, you (or your partner) would need to be identified as the patient. This would mean creating a treatment plan, diagnosing the individual (if applicable), and reporting progress to the insurance company.

Not only is this invasive, it creates a power imbalance where one person is the patient and the other is their support person. To me, this is unethical.

Insurance companies care about claims and diagnostic codes, not your relationship’s growth. That’s why I choose to operate outside of insurance: so that the focus can remain entirely on you, your partner, and your relationship. This allows for greater flexibility, privacy, and a more effective path to healing.

However, you can check with your health insurance plan to see if you have benefits for “out of network” couples counseling/marriage counseling or individual therapy. If so, I can provide a receipt of payment for you to submit to your insurance company for reimbursement directly from them.

If you’re experiencing sexual challenges, communication difficulties about intimacy, or changes in desire that impact your relationship, sex therapy may be a strong fit. Many couples seek support not because their relationship is failing, but because they want deeper connection, fulfillment, and clarity. If something in your sex life feels confusing or painful, therapy can help you navigate it with expert guidance.